Comments on: The Most Common Phobia http://www.ineedmotivation.com/blog/2007/01/the-most-common-phobia/ The Official Self Help & Personal Development Blog for INeedMotivation.com by Frederic Premji Tue, 18 Nov 2008 15:07:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Frederic Premji http://www.ineedmotivation.com/blog/2007/01/the-most-common-phobia/#comment-12 Frederic Premji Wed, 29 Aug 2007 20:40:10 +0000 http://www.ineedmotivation.com/blog/2007/01/the-most-common-phobia/#comment-12 Hello Patrick, Thank you for your message. Spiders can indeed be a nuisance. There are a few things that you can do. First, you can find the source of these spiders. Perhaps outside your basement windows and doors, check it out and get rid of webs. Where I live, there is a time of the year, usually spring, when there are tons of spiders. By spraying and destroying the webs outside, they will not be able to come inside. That's one thing you can do. Also, as I mentioned in my article, you need to remember how much bigger you are than a spider! Could you imagine if there was a giant species big like a sky scraper that would be terrified of us? Spiders cannot hurt or harm you. You are in control here, remember that. If you encounter one, just get rid of it, BAM! 2 secs, and move on about your business. Don't dwell on it. Tell yourself, "my life will not be controlled by an insect, I dare them to come near me, it's their loss!" Change your position, from the victim role to the role of the one in control. Because that's the logical thing to do here. By realizing that you are indeed in control and that you are the much bigger and more powerful creature between the two, you will get calmer and calmer. Face this issue head on, don't try to avoid it. Remember this quote: "Do what you fear, and you control fear". As well, I suggest you read up on spiders. You see, when we learn a bit more about something we don't quite know or understand, we can turn fear into a positive understanding :) Hello Patrick,

Thank you for your message. Spiders can indeed be a nuisance. There are a few things that you can do. First, you can find the source of these spiders. Perhaps outside your basement windows and doors, check it out and get rid of webs. Where I live, there is a time of the year, usually spring, when there are tons of spiders. By spraying and destroying the webs outside, they will not be able to come inside. That’s one thing you can do.

Also, as I mentioned in my article, you need to remember how much bigger you are than a spider! Could you imagine if there was a giant species big like a sky scraper that would be terrified of us? Spiders cannot hurt or harm you. You are in control here, remember that. If you encounter one, just get rid of it, BAM! 2 secs, and move on about your business. Don’t dwell on it. Tell yourself, “my life will not be controlled by an insect, I dare them to come near me, it’s their loss!” Change your position, from the victim role to the role of the one in control. Because that’s the logical thing to do here. By realizing that you are indeed in control and that you are the much bigger and more powerful creature between the two, you will get calmer and calmer. Face this issue head on, don’t try to avoid it. Remember this quote: “Do what you fear, and you control fear”.

As well, I suggest you read up on spiders. You see, when we learn a bit more about something we don’t quite know or understand, we can turn fear into a positive understanding :)

]]> By: Patrick http://www.ineedmotivation.com/blog/2007/01/the-most-common-phobia/#comment-10 Patrick Wed, 29 Aug 2007 06:07:02 +0000 http://www.ineedmotivation.com/blog/2007/01/the-most-common-phobia/#comment-10 Frederic, i am having a bit of a crisis. i am currently attending college as an off-campus student (i was unable to obtain housing on-campus). so, i live in a basement of a ranch house with five other guys and there are spiders. the situation is how i know it: this is a farm, I am living in a basement...so this is spider-ville. i am finding them behind my bed (they're not really big but big enough to give me goosebumps.) the earliest I can get out is for next semester and that won't be until january...i've got quite awhile. how do i calm myself down without doing one of two things (or even both): freak out entirely and give myself an aneurism and/or spray and saturate my room with spider killer (and possibly accidently killing myself in the process). i need to bust through this or i am going to lose a lot of sleep and that's not very good for education. what do you suggest? Frederic,

i am having a bit of a crisis. i am currently attending college as an off-campus student (i was unable to obtain housing on-campus). so, i live in a basement of a ranch house with five other guys and there are spiders. the situation is how i know it: this is a farm, I am living in a basement…so this is spider-ville. i am finding them behind my bed (they’re not really big but big enough to give me goosebumps.) the earliest I can get out is for next semester and that won’t be until january…i’ve got quite awhile. how do i calm myself down without doing one of two things (or even both): freak out entirely and give myself an aneurism and/or spray and saturate my room with spider killer (and possibly accidently killing myself in the process). i need to bust through this or i am going to lose a lot of sleep and that’s not very good for education. what do you suggest?

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