I appreciate your input into this topic.

Your point #1 about pride. You are saying that as if every employer is evil and will use and manipulate you. It was your experience unfortunately, but there are millions of people that have good employers. These people have every reason to be proud of the work they do. You do have to protect yourself emotionally, and being in charge of a company, I understand that fully. Otherwise, you may not sleep at night! I am still proud of the work I do, even if I don’t take it personally if something goes wrong.

As far as you following your passions and failing each time, that is not a reason to quit forever. I have been there, I started many different companies that failed and put me in debt until I did something that worked. I totally agree that people skills are needed, along with a host of other skills. I started very young, and I got most of my training through experience. I did not read a book or an article with all the answers, that’s not possible. There are tons of help available out there, but it’s up to you to glue all the pieces together to figure out your own path. If there was one such piece of advice that could resolve all issues in one shot, then everyone would succeed….such is not life as we know it.

I think that instead of focusing on what’s currently wrong or what you did wrong, focus on what you can do right. I feel that this topic is really fueling your energy, and I think that if you were to channel that energy in the right direction, you would figure out a way to resolve your current predicament. There is always a solution, you have to believe that, because there really is a solution, you just have to be in the right frame of mind to be open to hear it.

Are you saying that you have tried absolutely everything and that you are stuck, and there is nothing that can be done to get you out of your situation?

1) Watch out when taking pride in the workplace. your employer will often use the fact that you are emotionally invested in your project (i.e. taking ownership, etc) to manipulate you. Even when they don’t do this, you can suffer severe emotional distress/trauma when things get cancelled, plans change, etc, due to market forces or bearucratic nonsense. Its good thing to want to do your best, and take pride, but it can be a source of much anguish (and even nervous breakdowns if taken far enough) if you don’t take steps to protect yourself emotionally.

2) Attitude is destiny. this is related to teh ‘only positive talk’ heading, but I am taking a less polly-ana approach to the explanation. An off-putting attitude will make people not want to work with you. Yes, it is unfair that you cannot just ‘be yourself’

3) watch out for people who give good advice but only paint part of the picture. Sometimes a little knowledge is a dangerous thing. I have quit my job 3 times and taken time off to pursue my passions, and each time it lead straight into the pit of despair. Why? Because, although my technical skills and business knowledge were excellent, my people skills were virtually non-existant. Plus, I believed that one shouldn’t be REQUIRED to have good people skills just to succeed in this life. I was proven wrong ( I think… I’m still not entirely sure why I failed 3 times in a row, starting my own projects).

(oh and p.s. name-calling and swearing are ways to get draw attention to the issue, get an emotional reaction out of people, and make the discussion have a little more zap: if things are kept too ‘professional’ and polite then you run the risk of having fake, plastic interactions, which will not lead to learning and growth… at least, this is what my experience has taught me)

first of all….name calling is completely immature. You want to truly make a change in your life, start with your attitude! You get nowhere in life being negative and insulting other people. I am here to help you….I’m not against you, so why call me a moron? Completely unnecessary!

Now, if money cannot motivate you, you need to find motivation elsewhere. If career growth is not even possible, then you need a change, I agree there. For example, I had a high paying job in a financial company many years ago. But I was miserable. I left that job to start my own business, doing something I was passionate about. Sure, it was a major pay cut, and I found myself highly in debt the first few years, but I was passionate and motivated to do something I truly wanted, and that was worth taking the risk.

You need to figure out what you really want to do. Follow your passion. Yes, sometimes that means taking a huge cut in your salary and changing your lifestyle, but those are the risks of the game. You have to take risks in life otherwise you can’t gain anything.

Read this article about finding your true passion, maybe this will help you figure it out

best regards!

Thanks for the tips ! I will use them !

what if the salary isn’t good enough and is the main reason of your de-motivation